Guess Who? A Page of Our Life

He saunters in without realizing how intense his presence is.  Sometimes he hangs out in the doorway of the kitchen, with his arms in an iron-cross.  It’s a full-body workout for most people, but for him it seems effortless, almost like breathing.  At the dinner table, his spoon becomes a weapon, an airplane, a guy with a gun.  If it is taken away from him, his fingers become smoking guns, or walking bad guys, or missiles that scream before exploding.  He eats entire bags of carrots in one sitting.  He eats breakfast and a half hour later he eats again, and on until the end of the day.  His diet is the food of Olympians: fruit, oats, anything crunchy without added sugar.  He is still only when he’s sleeping.

She dons numerous outfits a day, usually in some contrasting style or color.  Hair-twirler, song singer, marker-lover.  She makes beds like a pro.  Although a  little emotionally fragile, she is also strong in spirit.  She loves her friends.  She is starting to write and read and adores school.  In her heart she is a princess, and she loves to be in charge of anyone who lets her.  She has a dry sense of humor that is slowly unfolding.  Though she’s afraid of being in her room all by  herself, she is not afraid of walking to the  park alone.  Her bravery gets her into mischief, but I know one day it will take her places where no one else is willing to go.

His eyes never cease to make my heart flutter.  He never stops talking, unless he’s in the middle of a project.  He loves to build, create, and imagine.  His favorite words are, “Mom, look at this!”  He knows exactly how to act around babies to make them smile and feel comfortable.  He is sweet and gentle when he’s not trying to impress, and by not trying he endears you to himself.  His mind is always thinking, and often there is more going on inside than meets the eye.  He loves to make people laugh, whether it’s by scaring them, telling a joke, or making silly faces.  He is into magic shows and can mow the grass beautifully.

Her hair and personality match perfectly.  Bouncy, beautiful, noticeable.  She loves people so much it literally makes her heart hurt sometimes if she can’t be with them.  She has a servant’s heart and when she sets her mind to it, she can accomplish anything.  She is not intimidated by age, and has a special ability to converse with people who are much older.  She likes to know “the plan”, and isn’t so fond of surprises.  She loves to give gifts and holds onto her own possessions very loosely.  She likes her space, but has learned how to share generously.

Her belly sticks out as she stands with her hands behind her back, then she swings her arms purposefully as if she is about to do something with great meaning.  She loves to squeal at Toby the rabbit and say, “Good boy!”  Every other word is usually, “MaMA?  MaMA?”  She points to the door and says, “Outside?”  She also calls all her babies “Abby”, gives them kisses, and tells them, “Good gooorl!”  When it’s time to go to bed, she knows if any of her babies are missing, and says, “Baby?  Baby?” until all are present and accounted for.  Her shoe fetish begins first thing in the morning and sometimes lasts throughout the night as she sleeps with her shoes on her feet.  She walks around with a pretend phone, laughing and conversing before saying, “Die- die!” and hanging up.

These are my children, the ones who fill my days with joy and fun; sometimes sorrow and exhaustion.  As someone said last night, and I echo her words, I would like to believe that I am enjoying every moment.  Yes, they turn ten in what seems a blink!  But I love seeing them change and grow.  Sometimes the change seems slow, other times it happens overnight.  One day their head is covered in peach fuzz, the next day it’s in a pony-tail.  One day they’re on my hip, and the next day they’re riding their bike around the block.  They don’t stay babies forever, and I’m glad of that!  I love every stage, every age, and every page of this book of life we’re writing together.

Happy Double Digits

Ten years ago I was holding a six pound, three ounce baby girl.  Her mouth was like a little rose bud, and her arms and legs were so skinny.  She was a peanut!  Regular contractions had started at dinnertime the night before, around bowls of chicken noodle soup which my Peruvian friend told me would be sure to start labor.  She was right, and by the time we had walked home to our little shoe-box apartment I was in full-fledged labor.  When I arrived at the birth center at 2:30am, I was in hard labor.  Just that week we had heard some very difficult news about my home in Africa.  There had been an attack on the station where I was born and raised and a horrible massacre had then unfolded.  It gives me too many tears to write what transpired during that dark time.  You can read about it here.  There was a mass exodus of people who left Nyankunde and marched for nine days to safety.  The ray of hope that entered my mind as I labored with my firstborn, was the fact that along that arduous, horrendous march through rainforest, swamps, and rivers, some women in the group gave birth.  New life in the midst of death and horror.

As I labored in my plush bathtub, I felt united to these women, and empowered by their bravery.  It was a very real connection in my mind and heart.  At 4:44 am, Nadine Ruth was born.  Our life has never been the same.  Today we celebrate our little girl who is a half-inch from being as tall as me.  She has a huge, generous heart.  Always having been a night owl, she now puts that nocturnal ability to work and usually helps me clean up the kitchen after everyone is in bed.  She loves horses and animals.  She has a love for people and if she could, she would have company every single day.  We love her like crazy!

 

Take That, Monday

For whatever reason, Monday mornings always seem out to get me.

Petty arguments:  “Did you hurt her?” was my question. “Not that much,” was the answer.

Getting on  the computer without asking: Someone googled their name and so it was pretty easy to figure out who did it.  Another child said to them, “They [meaning google] don’t know who you are.  You’re not famous.  Yet.”  I couldn’t help but chuckle under my breath.

During school, Elijah was writing a short story and was trying to think of a title for it.  He was contemplating using  A Knight’s Tale until Nadine sternly warned him, “You can’t use Knight’s Tale.  Remember?  You will have to pay twenty-five million dollars!  And then you’ll go to jail!”  I’m glad plagiarism and copyright rules are strictly enforced around here.

Earlier this afternoon I was feeling the desperate need for some sunshine, so Jack and I sat outside to practice his reading.  After about ten minutes it felt like a bug flew into my hair.  There was an awful buzzing sound, which was muffled and then stopped when I shooed at whatever was there.  I thought it flew back out, until a minute later when I heard more horrible buzzing coming from my hair.  I shooed it again and asked Jack what it was.  He looked in my hair and yelled, “It’s a wasp!”  I then proceeded to scream and panic and scream some more.  I yelled for Elijah to come and get it OUT OF MY HAIR!  The neighbors must have thought I was being attacked.  I am petrified of getting stung.  The thought of a wasp or yellow jacket (which it turns out it was) stinging me on my head makes me shiver.  After some more stomping, head swirling, and yelling, miraculously it flew out.  I promptly put a hat on my head.

Even though there are fights and disagreements, there are also sweet moments.  At lunch Nadine looked over at Elsie and said, “What is your favorite food, Elsie?  I need to get to know you better, since we always get into fights!”

Right now they are outside playing “China”, and speaking in some unintelligible language.  There are two countries at war I think.  Betty may be the ransom, I’m not sure.  There are scarves and hats and lots of foreign dialogue.  We’re out to get Monday and make it fun!

Growing Betty

Sometimes I just sit on the ground and watch Elsie and Betty play their games.  This particular day involved a cowboy hat and a load of towels hanging on the clothesline.  In and out they went, laughing and chattering.  Betty’s personality is quickly emerging as she approaches the big two.


She loves to play.  She just discovered that she loves apples, so now she fits in with the rest of her siblings when they each are chomping on an apple.  In fact, the other day Jack was eating a huge apple and his loose tooth came out and he swallowed it with the apple!  Oops!  He was very nonplussed about it and kept eating his apple.


Her pants are starting to look like flood-water pants, and her shoes barely squeeze on her little feet.  She’s been in size 3 for a long time!

When I asked Nadine what her favorite thing about  Betty is right now, she said, I love it when she puts her hands behind her back and just stands there.  It’s true.  Super cute!  Her favorite song is “Ten Men”, where we act out the story of the ten men that Jesus healed and only one man came back.  Then she brings one hand out and puts up her pointer finger and waves it around while we sing, “Thank you, thank you, Jesus…”  So cute.


When we ask her a question and it’s a yes, she excitedly says, “Da!”  When it’s a no, she shakes her head very fast, tilts her head down, and looks up with no expression on her face, except whatever her big brown eyes say.

A typical afternoon with Betty includes a few changes of shoes, running around with something on her head, and lots of giggling.  She also seems to leave a whirlwind of messes wherever she goes.  I think the main reason she makes messes is so she can clean them up.  She loves to help pick things up, sweep the floor, unload the dishwasher, and put things away.   It’s hard to get upset when I turn around and she’s smiling at me.

Thoughts on Bean-stocks and Showers

 

Happiness is picking a tray or two full of tomatoes at the end of September, and making delicious sauce for homemade pizza!  Happiness is also picking fresh basil and making peso for another pizza.  We have had a lot of happy pizza meals this month, using up our fresh ingredients as much as possible.  While the plants are looking droopy and crisp, there is still some orange and red goodness coming from their branches!

The other day while we were picking said tomatoes, Elsie and I found a ton of beans growing on what I thought was just our morning-glory vine!  Turns out Jack grew his bean-stock on our trellis, and we were inundated with beans!

I have about a thousand other things to write about, but I have had about five minutes of free time each day, and usually I spend them just reveling in the fact that I don’t have to do anything.  Right now those five minutes are just about gone.  Now it’s time to clip fingernails, scrub some dirty kids, and see if I can squeeze a shower in there somewhere.  Next to putting away clothes, it’s my least favorite thing to do.  Yes, it’s true.  I actually really dislike taking showers.  I always have.  Ask my sisters.  My oldest sister used to have to drag me to the tub to scrub my hair.  Now I have to really discipline myself to get in the shower.  Probably a large percentage of you will look at me funny the next time you see me, trying to gauge whether or not I’ve showered that day.  I’d like to believe I almost always do, but I pretty much always really hate it.  So, there’s a little unknown fact for you.  It’s probably safe to say that I wouldn’t enjoy bubble bath for Christmas.  However, like many things I’ve outgrown in my life, this is one thing I’m hoping I will one day grow to love and enjoy.  Maybe.  Like beans growing on my morning-glory vine, all things are possible!

 

 

Tonight’s Secret Invitation

I like to cook for a lot of people.  It’s an inherited trait, I think.  My Grandma did it by  necessity, having 9 kids.  My mom also did it frequently, and it was always a standing joke about how we always had enough supper for an army.  Tonight I decided to invite someone over to join our bounty.  It wasn’t a tangible invite, really.  It was more like a piece of bait, splashed across my facebook page.  I told myself that whoever responded with any inkling of desire would get an instant invite.  Maybe it sounds silly to you, but it wasn’t to me.  It was exciting, cutting up pounds of potatoes, grilling a dozen hotdogs and a dozen hamburgers, baking sixteen rolls, and putting together a huge apple crisp.  I kept wondering who was coming over for dinner.  Well, five o’clock rolled around, then six o’clock, then seven o’clock.  One person bit the bait, but they had other commitments.  Another looked longingly at the dangling metaphorical french fry, but since they were about a twenty-hour drive from here, that didn’t work out either.

We ate.  Now we’re surrounded by leftovers.  You know what?  I felt a lot like Jesus must feel like every day.  Every day he invites us to partake of His bounty.  He has some set aside just for us.  Specially made to fit our tastes, our talents, our abilities.  His invitations aren’t vague ones, either.  This one is very clear:  “Come to me all of you who are weary and over burdened, and I will give you rest!”  He says.  Yet we keep on carrying our burdens alone, cinching up the pack tighter so it doesn’t fall off.  We are so often just not brave enough to say to His face, “Are there any of your blessings left for me?”  We walk by faith so tentatively, so secretly, so timidly sometimes.

He says something else to us: “Is anyone thirsty? Come and drink— even if you have no money!  Come, take your choice of wine or milk— it’s all free!   Why spend your money on food that does not give you strength?  Why pay for food that does you no good?  Listen to me, and you will eat what is good.  You will enjoy the finest food.  Come to me with your ears wide open.  Listen, and you will find life… My ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.  For just as the heavens are higher than the earth,  so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.”  If someone tells me “free food”, I usually come running.  Jesus is offering better than that.  His food is eternal life, and that means life abundant.  It’s not life that is just okay, it’s life that’s amazing, full of adventure, and life beyond our wildest imaginings.

Right now I think God is cooking up a great feast for us.  He is grinning and waiting for you and me to snag His invitation personally so He can treat you to life abundant.

A Word Picture of Our Morning

He doesn’t walk, he does backwards rolls into the kitchen.  The other boy doesn’t just walk, he  somehow makes his feet sound like elephants.  She hops on one leg, convincingly pretending that her leg is broken, because she’s always wondered what that’s like.  The other girl twirls her hair while she walks down the stairs, looking sleepy and disheveled.  The baby, unlike her siblings at that age, still doesn’t know that it’s possible to climb out of her bed, so she squawks and waits with her pink bunny and faithful fingers in her mouth.  She giggles when she’s rescued and immediately wants her shoes put on her feet.

Breakfast smells delicious.  There are perks to being low on milk, because it forces the making of chocolate chip banana bread.  The children are magnetically pulled towards the oven, then shooed back to the couch to wait ten more minutes for it to finish baking.  Their appetites are temporarily satiated by hidden pictures and books.

My cup of tea is almost finished.  The sleepy hair-twirler is on my lap, cozy pink blanket wrapped around us both.  Our morning begins, and I wonder what is being held in store for us today.

The Delivery

Yesterday I had some unexpected splashes of color painted into my day.  Highlights of joy that I didn’t  know I needed, but as usual, my Heavenly Father knew I needed them.  After a bit of a rough start with school, things smoothed out.  Shortly after, I got a text from a friend saying she prayed for me this morning over her cup of hot tea.  I know it’s because of her prayers.  Then after a couple of hours of school, sprinkled with lots of loud exclamations from Betty (who loves highlighters and scissors and glue… oh my!) there was a flower-delivery man at my front door!  Tucked into a fall pumpkin were yellows and oranges and reds and a sweet note from a friend.  I needed that so badly!  The thoughtfulness that went into those flowers touched me so much!  I love surprises, and that fit the bill completely!  I love color & beauty, and both were hand delivered to my doorstep.  Thank you, friend, for refreshing this mama’s heart!  I’m so excited that I get to look at my flowers with a cozy sweater on (because the temperature smells of fall, even if the calendar doesn’t.)

After school we had to form a search party for our dear bunny.  Toby is half-tame and half-wild and we let him roam our basement and sometimes he goes outside.  Usually he stays in our yard.  Sometimes he doesn’t.  We eventually found him under a huge pine tree in our neighbor’s yard.   Afterwards, I was able to spend the entire afternoon with just Nadine.  We went to the library, got ice-cream, then went thrift-store shopping.  For the price of one pair of sunglasses we bought books, a few outfits, two pairs of sunglasses, a few pairs of boots, and six pairs of earrings!  It was a lot of fun.  I learned that she doesn’t like to be surprised as much as she likes to be “in the know”.  She is changing into someone who wants to know ahead of time where we’re going so she can plan and think about what outfit to wear!  She’s not like her little sisters who don’t care whether they’re wearing pajamas or not before running out the door. She relished the time shopping.  This has never happened before.  I almost feel like I felt the first week she was at home.  Unsure of how to care for this little person.  In awe that this life has been entrusted to our hands.  Now, almost ten years later, I’m feeling very much like we’re in an entire new phase of life.  Not only that, but the other four will just as quickly be changing and phasing out of their childhood.  I pray to be steadied.  The other day as she was helping me clean up the kitchen, she had just finished shaking out the tablecloth outside and was putting it back on the table.  She said, “What do you really not like about tablecloths?  They’re pretty, they’re useful… I wonder who invented them?”  Her thoughts are many and varied!

So far everyone is still very eager beaver about school, and it’s almost time to start.

I’m thankful that I have five beautiful faces and some lovely flowers to look at all morning!

Eighty

On Sunday we celebrated the 80th birthday of Matthew’s grandmom.  She is a beautiful lady, rich in history.

  

 

 
We had such a great time with our family!  Grandmom’s life is full of grace and strength.  We joked around about her many sayings, like, “Marguerite, Marguerite, wash your feet.”  She always laughs like it’s the first time she’s said or heard it.

 

 

    
As usual, there was a conglomeration of things going on.  Volleyball.   Bubbles.  Running around.  Handstands.  Climbing flagpoles.


Our family with Pop and Grandmom… missing the four in Italy!

  
We ended the night with sparklers!
  

Under the Fish Lights Again

It’s hard to believe that a week ago we were driving home with five rambunctious kids, sad to leave the shore house, which no matter how long you stay there, is never long enough.  A week of school, finally unpacking, seventeen loads of laundry (or so), and twenty-one meals.  Yesterday I pulled a twelve-hour shift of non-stop kids, chattering, tidying, schooling, and somewhere in there a cup or two of hot tea!  My hat goes off to those mamas who solo it every day.  It just happened to be an extra long day of work and other commitments for Matthew, and the sound of his rusty old truck parking outside makes my heart skip a beat, and then settle into a gentle rhythm of, “He’s home… he’s home…”

Our time at the shore house was thankfully not plagued by any strange throw-up bugsor deluges, and we made it through four days without going to the laundromat!  Now that’s exciting!  Playing Balderdash one night under the fish lights and laughing our guts out reaches pretty high on my list of favorite memories.  I had my handy-dandy voice recorder secretly going, and caught a bunch of hilarity that way, including the moment when the bench that Matt’s parents were sitting on collapsed.  I think we were super relaxed by laughing so hard, that thankfully they weren’t hurt… and so we laughed some more!

We also had fun with sparklers, taking bike rides, and drinking slushies.

One morning, some went fishing while some of us stayed behind and played super-woman and phase ten.

 

We also took a trip to the boardwalk one night.  I had a blast doing the screaming swing with Nadine again.  Elijah rode the go-karts and spun himself silly on the tornado.  Elsie loved the rides even more this year.  Jack was about a quarter-inch too short for the rollercoaster.  Betty wanted to do everything but couldn’t.  Next year should be epic!